"It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities."
J.K. Rowling Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
I have been working with a kid at school who is going through a challenging time in life. By working with, I mean listening and trying to find ways to help. My message to the student, in response to information about how the family behaves is, "You get to choose who you become."
As adults, we all know that is a fact (don't we?). We choose, through our actions, who we become and who we are. We can't choose the things that happen to us, but we can choose how we react. Perhaps one of the greatest lessons we can teach kids is that they can be who they want to be. No kid is stagnant, they are 'not done yet.'
So, maybe part of our job is to show kids a variety of ways to be and model the positive side of life. My thought of the day is....are we doing that? With everyone??? Do our actions show kids everything our words portray?
When I asked the student how I could help them through the terrible times, the response was, "Keep helping me see that I can choose who I become." Yep, that's my job.